A Reminder: Black Is Beautiful

September 1, 2009 at 5:01 am 4 comments


We’ve been saying this since the Seventies, and some people still don’t know. Some people still don’t believe. And saddest of all, some of those who don’t know and believe that in their hearts are black women.

So allow me to say it loud and say it proud for us all — black is beautiful.

Look in the mirror and smile at yourself. The pigment of your skin is glowing and gorgeous. Anyone who makes you feel any less is an idiot, and they are not worth a second of your time.

Why am I writing this? It’s a follow up to this comment I got on Afrobella in February, 2008. Scroll down to comment 75. Yup, I’m still getting comments on this thread a year later, and that particular one lingered with me.

“This article was, for me, very empowering. I had just searched on Google “are black women beautiful?” because as a teen who goes to an all white school, sometimes i’m doubtful. But thankfully it is in a neighborhood that is very diverse with all sorts of people attending my school, even a few native americans. Over this summer I’ve come to realize that I am beautiful, with my mahogany skin, black eyes, kinky hair, the works. I have been wearing my hair natural for all my life except for about five months when i was feeling unusually insecure and got it pressed. i think god was looking out for me because had i gotten a perm, my hair would not be the shoulder length, thick, and healthy hair it is now…

I love being black and all the things that come with it, things like not having to worry too much about sunburn and melanoma, being able to get away with not shaving for a while (at least if you have dark skin like mine), and being able to wear practically any color except gray or chartreuse :)….this article just reaffirmed all that for me. thanks again.” — Willow

Willow, you’re the reason I blog. Women like you. There are so many of us out here, who know the truth in our hearts but sometimes are seeking that little nugget of affirmation. For Willow, it came over the summer, and via Google. But for many, many beautiful brown skinned bellas around the world, that realization takes longer. Or never happens.

What does being a black beauty mean? It means that wrinkles and crows feet are unlikely to afflict you as you get older. You can wear absolutely any color under the sun and know that it looks amazing on you. People are spending beaucoup bucks on injections to make their lips as full and luscious as yours naturally are. So maybe there aren’t a ton of women who look like you on the catwalks of New York Fashion Week, or in the pages of the typical women’s magazines. Who cares? You don’t need that mainstream affirmation to reinforce what you know.

I’m here on Who’s The Fairest? to give you loving reminders like this. Even though you may not be the “fairest” in terms of that old school definition of being light in color, you’re certainly the fairest in terms of being fresh, comely, and radiant. But if you can’t look at yourself and believe it 110%, nobody else will. So check yourself out, chica. You are beautiful!

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4 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Who’s The Fairest? (I Am!) | afrobella  |  September 1, 2009 at 5:46 pm

    […] A Reminder: Black is Beautiful is dedicated to you and the other bellas like you. Every now and then, we all need a reminder to show ourselves the love we deserve. […]

    • 2. Katrina  |  September 1, 2009 at 6:47 pm

      Yes, we are ALL beautiful but reading this makes me want to sing! “Say it loud!…I’m Black and I’m Proud! Say it, say it, say it!” =D Thank you Patrice!

  • 3. flygyrl72  |  September 21, 2009 at 9:17 pm

    Great post Bella!

    I can relate to Willow, because that’s how I used to feel a lot of times too. I grew up in a pretty much all White suburb of Chicago & it can be hard, especially when you’re already so insecure about your looks just due to being a teenager, etc.

    I just signed up for this newsletter a couple of weeks ago & then just read on your blog that you’d be posting here as well.

    Will be sure to look out for your posts on here from now on.


  • 4. lora.skrtic  |  June 30, 2010 at 7:18 pm

    black is beautiful>>>>>>> I am white and am trying all summer to get as dark as I can..it looks healthy and beautiful I think…..


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